Offer Them Christ
The Weblog Of J.F. Howard

Thoughts On Marriage And Faith

[JFH: I married a special couple on June 26, 2010. Kevin is a newly minted police office. Katie is a school teacher. During their wedding I offered them some thoughts about the relationship between marriage, salvation, and faith. Here are those thoughts. God bless you, Kevin and Katie…today, and for many years to follow!]

         Kevin and Katie, the Bible says God created us to live in freedom. Jesus Christ redeemed us to live in freedom.

         But this freedom is not an invitation for us to live self-centered, selfish lives. In fact, it is a freedom to live just the opposite—lives that are unselfish and self-giving.

         Listen to these words from Galatians 5:13-14:

(13) For you have been called to live in freedom, my brothers and sisters. But don’t use your freedom to satisfy your sinful nature. Instead, use your freedom to serve one another in love. (14) For the whole law can be summed up in this one command: “Love your neighbor as yourself.”

         Today, Kevin and Katie you are exercising your freedom to enter into a covenant of marriage with each other. You have come here today to commit your life and your love to one another, and to commit your marriage to God.

         The Bible teaches us not to use our freedom to satisfy our sinful nature, but to serve one another in love (Galatians 5:13).

         That means that God’s gift of marriage is not to see what we can get out of it for ourselves, but to see what we can give to it for our spouse.

         God intends that we “use our freedom to serve one another.”

         The question we ask of marriage is not, “What can I get from it?” It is, “What can I give to it?”

         For many years, the Christian Church has pointed people to Jesus, in order to understand the meaning of marriage.

         The Bible says, “…husbands…love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her” (Ephesians 5:25).

         Jesus taught a way of living that runs counter to the ways humans are inclined to live.

         Jesus said, “The way to get, is to give. The way to have all you want, is to sacrifice all you have. The way to love, is to serve.”

         One of the great challenges for us is whether or not we are going to live the way Jesus says and the Bible teachers, or the way our human nature wants and desires.

         The word translated “love” in the Bible (agape) means “selfless, and self-giving.”

         We are closest to God, and the life Jesus call us to, when we give ourselves in loving service to other people.

         When we think of Jesus, the first thing that comes to mind is that He gave His life for others. When we follow His example, and live to give, we experience life at its fullest.

         So today, Kevin and Katie, I am honored to offer you an opportunity live life at the highest level possible—a life where you follow Jesus Christ—a life where you freely and completely give yourself to one another in selfless, sacrificial love, and in return, you will receive all you ever dreamed of, and so much more!

Are you ready to embark on that kind of adventure?

         If so, then now is the time to begin…


One Response to “Thoughts On Marriage And Faith”

  1. These are powerful and challenging words – especially in our “its all about me” culture.

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